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Comment on Come Again? Sexual Refractory Periods In Men by Michelle

Wed, 28 May 2008 03:09:04 +0000

I like to throw my “college words” around - and have found that when asked how long their “refractory period” is, 99% of men say, “My WHAT?”

But “how long does it take you to get hard again after cumming?” They all know THAT answer…

The only person who knew what his refractory period was - actually didn’t have one!!! WOW!

Good work - I LOVE your pages…

xoxo
Miss Michelle

Comment on Slacker Guys & Striver Girls - What To Do? by Chasbo

Mon, 26 May 2008 19:47:35 +0000

Another great article by Mary Spicuzza. Alas, she had to resign from the SF Weekly for that Wikipedia episode. Too bad, because that paper needs good journalists.

Comment on Slacker Guys & Striver Girls - What To Do? by Jackanape

Fri, 23 May 2008 01:05:23 +0000

I loved Mary Spicuzza’s slacker boy and striver girls article. And I’m pissed she was forced to resign from the SF Weekly for writing that Wikipedia article. Nobody, and I mean nobody, writes about sex and murder as well as her.

Comment on There Are No Strangers by Linda Kay Stevens

Tue, 20 May 2008 23:06:21 +0000

Thank you for reminding how much my love and relationship to my mother has deepened since her death in 1992.
I recently went to my nephew’s HS graduation and could feel my mother’s love for her grandson trembling through my blood as I witnessed for all my ancestors the answered prayer for our life vine to continue.

in joy,
Linda K.

Comment on Sacred Sex On Playboy Radio by Francesca

Sun, 02 Sep 2007 18:07:42 +0000

Hi Lori,

Thank you so much for writing to me. My personal email is sacreddancer@mindpring.com

In my experience, everyone (male or female)in our culture has been wounded by negative or conflicting messages about:

- Aging
- The body
- Emotions
- Sexuality
- The genitals

Male or female, we carry splits in our psyche because of these negative or conflicting messages.

By splits I mean that consciously we make think we are healthy, “together,” successful, spiritual, enlightened, and/or healed.

But unconsciously, we carry hidden wounds, and negative beliefs that keep us disconnected from feelings, intimacy, and passion.

It is extremely positive that your beloved sent you to a site on Sacred Sexuality. This speaks to his longing for deeper intimacy and more expansive sexuality.

However, he is a product of our culture (as are you). As such, he has received negative programming:

- Aging is bad and should be avoided

- People are only worthwhile (male or female) if they are young

- To be a real man, a guy must always be horny and have orgasms.

- A real man, a real stud, is with women who rate a 10 on the airbrushed model scale.

- Emotions are dangerous.

I encourage you to have compassion for yourself and your beloved.

Each relationship is an opportunity to grow and to heal to the next level whether or not it lasts a lifetime.

I would be honored to be of service when you come to San Francisco.

It takes practice, and time to shift these cultural messages and to deepen the courage to be ever more present and vulnerable.

I recommend the DVD:

“Ancient Secrets of Sexual Ecstasy”

Warmth and blessings,
Francesca

Comment on Sacred Sex On Playboy Radio by Lori Carter

Sun, 02 Sep 2007 14:17:48 +0000

Hi Francesca, A man in my life sent me your link and I am quite intrigued will continue reading your info. Curious about the hormone? supplements?
Perhaps he and I will see you togeather if you do that when I come to San Francisco to visit him in Oct. My question: I have been seeing this man for a year, long distance I think we have averaged monthly visits I am 54 he is 59. I exersise, do yoga eat right etc. I learned how to make myself happy before getting involved. Feel a strong spiritual connection with this man and we have both undoubtably grown this year and continue to. I have noticed that I have felt increasingly bad about my appearance in being with him. I get compliments regularly and know I am attractive but he is always telling me what I can do to look younger, he has a intense need for validation from young women, the emotional and spiritual growth has been sufficient that I have continued to show up. This issue affects my comfort and feeling safe sexually with him. He talks with me and is suggestive sexually with me all the time on the phone but then when we are togeather, we will start making love then he seems disconnected almost immediately and will say something negative about me, does not look at me and does not seem to want to touch and explore my body, I almost wonder at times if he even feels my touch, this has been very confusing. I try to talk with him about these things but that is equally confusing he says all the right things, spends and enourmous amount of time, I think connecting on the internet with women, but face to face, body to body contact is such a different story I end up feeling extremely sad and blamed for not being young enough,juicy enough and I used to feel so great…I do not know if he expects me to supply the feelings he is missing in himself or what. Prior to this I was married 2xs 10yrs and 18 yrs. Sex was technically good but there was no emotional intimacy and I wanted to hold out for what I truly wanted this time. Anyway if you see couples as I said perhaps I will get to meet you, in the meantime suggestions? Thank you for your time. Be Well, Lori Carter

Comment on The Science of Love OR The Soul of Love by Heather Kozar Nude

Sat, 25 Aug 2007 08:35:14 +0000

Heather Kozar Nude

I Googled for something completely different, but found your page…and have to say thanks. nice read.

Comment on If Britney Spears Used Tantra by Admitments

Sat, 18 Aug 2007 22:41:11 +0000

Unfortunately, they make a living by showing off and not by showing up authentically. That’s what celebrities do.

Comment on The Science of Love OR The Soul of Love by Francesca

Mon, 09 Jul 2007 14:52:35 +0000

Hi dear heart,

The science of love is the science. The soul of love is the soul.

I like your point about keeping an open mind to both. We are both. Both finite matter (blood, bones, biology) and infinite spirit.

I believe we choose to embody to learn in ways that can only be accomplished while in a body. (Emotions, aging, dying, loving etc).

Blessings on your soulful path,
Francesca

Comment on The Science of Love OR The Soul of Love by Zack Davies

Mon, 02 Jul 2007 12:39:33 +0000

“The soul of love can’t be dissected in a laboratory.”

Well, maybe it can and maybe it can’t. If the Dalai Lama can keep an open mind about precisely what science can explain, perhaps the rest of us should as well.

Just because certain things have been shown in a lab, there’s no reason to infer that scientists think they have all of the answers. If they thought that, they’d be out of a job! Sure, there are some cynical misanthropes who want to boil love down to chemicals and lust, but how is this any worse than the irrationality of anyone else’s hurt and rejection?

I dislike the idea that scientific understanding takes the magic out of things. Any scientist will tell you that the opposite is true! As regards science and tantra, let’s make love not war.