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Archive for October, 2007

Halloween Tantra

Hi dear hearts,

Hallow E’en. Or Hallowed Evening is based upon the Celtic Holy Day of Samhain. Samhain means November in Gaelic. Hallow E’en is seen as the ending of summer and the beginning of winter (The Celts had 2 seasons).

Many European cultural traditions, in particular Celtic cultures, hold that Halloween is one of the liminal times of the year when spirits can make contact with the physical world, and when magic is most potent. (Wikepedia) It is also referred to as “the veil between the worlds” being thin. The veils between past & present, death & rebirth, known and unknown, magical & mundane.

It is considered a beneficial time to:
- Honor, heal, contact, request guidance from, and/or forgive the ancestors
- Peform divination
- Make prayers to become pregnant in the coming year
- Contact the Faery Folk

It is considered a possibly dangerous time because wandering spirits or ghosts might be abroad and unsettled. So, at this time, when some being comes visiting, you will want to give them a gift or sweet. Otherwise, they may become irritated and do you harm. (Trick or Treat).

American Tantra can involve the use of consciousness, energy, intention, breath, lighting candles, prayers, and presencing the Divine. These can all be pieces of ritual that bring greater magic, peace, healing, and pleasure into your life any day and especially on Holy Days.

To have a Tantric Halloween:

- Light incense or heat pot pourri in water. Use scents of cinamon, cloves, nutmeg, or any spices that remind you of harvest.

- Fill your bedroom with candles. White for purity. Orange for empowerment. Green for healing or prosperity.

- Put on music that is beautiful and melodic. Chill music. Cello music. Whatever takes you on a journey of heart & body in a sensuous way.

- Craft a Hallow E’en intention for your lovemaking session (with self or beloved).

Examples:
“May this lovemaking fill my soul with guidance and wisdom from the Ancestors.
OR May this lovemaking bring a child into my life in the coming year.
OR May this lovemaking open my spirit to the magic of existence.
OR May this lovemaking lead me into a powerful vision or insightful dream.” Etc.

- To presence the Divine: See if you can glimpse the spark of eternal soul in the eyes of your beloved (or if with yourself - in your own eyes). If you like, you can also say a prayer to The Divine in what ever way nourishes your spirit.

Take your time. Caress the entire body with long, loving strokes. Head to toe. Dance with your hands. Slide across your beloved or wriggle on your own sheets. Undulate (rocking your pelvis). Keep breathing deeply into a relaxed belly. Relax your jaw. Notice thoughts and let them go. Breathe into your heart. Envision people around the world lighting bonfires. Dancing. Inviting the wisdom of the Ancestors. Slowly begin to engage with the genitals and continue to caress the entire body. Focusing at times with your hand on the heart chakra and 3rd eye (just above and between the eyebrows.)

When (after at least 1/2 an hour) one of you, yourself, your beloved, or together begin to rise toward orgasm, remember your intention. Hold it in your mind and heart as the arousal builds and is released. (This does take practice. Holding it in your mind as long as you can is still beneficial.)

After ejaculation, injaculations, climaxes, and/or orgasms. Continue to breathe into a relaxed belly and with a relaxed jaw. Spoon with your beloved. And place one hand on their heart chakra. Or, if with yourself, place one hand on your own heart chakra. Invite a dream of guidance, healing or blessing, as your drift into sleep.

This ritual can take place anytime between the Full Moon closest to October 31st and within a week after October 31st.

For more information, or to receive coaching on crafting Love Rituals in your life, please contact me.

May your life be blessed,
Francesca

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Cosmic Sex Survey Results

This summer I attended a conference for The American Association of Sex Educators, counselors, & Therapists www.AASECT.org

A beautiful presentation was made by Dr. Gina Ogden.www.GinaOgden.com

Dr. Ogden was the first person to really study the heart and soul of sex in the biggest survey of its kind.

It is called the ISIS Survery. (Integrating Sexuality & Spirituality)

3,810-the number of women and men who answered the ISIS survey giving us a whole new window into what makes sex cosmic! ! !

18 - 86-the age range of ISIS respondents

78-the percent who say, “Sex is much more than intercourse; it involves all of me-body, mind, heart, and soul.”

32-the percent who say sexual desire has been a source of guilt

68-the percent who’ve experienced sexual ecstasy

86-the percent who say a spiritual element is necessary for sexual satisfaction

27-the percent who experienced sexual abuse in childhood

81-the percent who say honesty and sharing deep feelings help sex feel spiritual

63-the percent who say letting go of control helps sex feel spiritual

61-the percent who say safety is important to their sexual well-being

4,412-the number of times ISIS respondents mentioned spiritual, emotional, and relational aspects of sexual experience

23-the number of times ISIS respondents mentioned genital stimulation and intercourse.

You can take the ISIS Survery http://www.womanspirit.net/ISIS_Survey.pdf

You can listen to Dr. Ogden’s interview at http://personallifemedia.com/podcasts/tantra-kama-sutra/episode020-gina-ogden-cosmic-sex.html

Warmth and blessings,
Francesca

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Tantric Shamanism Institute

Hi dear hearts,

About 10 years, ago I met Sylvia at a Pagan Festival at a beautiful clothing optional retreat center - Harbin Hot Springs. http://www.harbin.org/

I immediately noticed her beauty, and her prana/energy. That weekend, I was transported, through her words & drumming, on an empowering shamanic journey of breath and spirit.

I was lying next to a beautiful man with flowing golden hair. Later he would become my lover. As we deepened our breathing and synchronized our hearts to the drum my whole body began to shake in ecstatic Kriya’s of energy.

You can find out more about Sylvia at http://www.tantricshamanism.com/

OR on her interview at http://www.personallifemedia.com/podcasts/tantra-kama-sutra/episode021-sylvia-brallier-sacred-techniques.html

Warmth and blessings,
Francesca

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