Comments on: Sacred Sex On Playboy Radio http://blogs.personallifemedia.com/sex-tantra-kama-sutra/2007/06/29/sacred-sex-on-playboy-radio/ Sacred Sex, Tantra & Kama Sutra: Tips, techniques, shares, and practices Sat, 20 Mar 2010 10:04:53 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.0.5 by: Francesca http://blogs.personallifemedia.com/sex-tantra-kama-sutra/2007/06/29/sacred-sex-on-playboy-radio/#comment-226 Sun, 02 Sep 2007 18:07:42 +0000 http://blogs.personallifemedia.com/sex-tantra-kama-sutra/2007/06/29/sacred-sex-on-playboy-radio/#comment-226 Hi Lori, Thank you so much for writing to me. My personal email is sacreddancer@mindpring.com In my experience, everyone (male or female)in our culture has been wounded by negative or conflicting messages about: - Aging - The body - Emotions - Sexuality - The genitals Male or female, we carry splits in our psyche because of these negative or conflicting messages. By splits I mean that consciously we make think we are healthy, "together," successful, spiritual, enlightened, and/or healed. But unconsciously, we carry hidden wounds, and negative beliefs that keep us disconnected from feelings, intimacy, and passion. It is extremely positive that your beloved sent you to a site on Sacred Sexuality. This speaks to his longing for deeper intimacy and more expansive sexuality. However, he is a product of our culture (as are you). As such, he has received negative programming: - Aging is bad and should be avoided - People are only worthwhile (male or female) if they are young - To be a real man, a guy must always be horny and have orgasms. - A real man, a real stud, is with women who rate a 10 on the airbrushed model scale. - Emotions are dangerous. I encourage you to have compassion for yourself and your beloved. Each relationship is an opportunity to grow and to heal to the next level whether or not it lasts a lifetime. I would be honored to be of service when you come to San Francisco. It takes practice, and time to shift these cultural messages and to deepen the courage to be ever more present and vulnerable. I recommend the DVD: "Ancient Secrets of Sexual Ecstasy" Warmth and blessings, Francesca Hi Lori,

Thank you so much for writing to me. My personal email is sacreddancer@mindpring.com

In my experience, everyone (male or female)in our culture has been wounded by negative or conflicting messages about:

- Aging
- The body
- Emotions
- Sexuality
- The genitals

Male or female, we carry splits in our psyche because of these negative or conflicting messages.

By splits I mean that consciously we make think we are healthy, “together,” successful, spiritual, enlightened, and/or healed.

But unconsciously, we carry hidden wounds, and negative beliefs that keep us disconnected from feelings, intimacy, and passion.

It is extremely positive that your beloved sent you to a site on Sacred Sexuality. This speaks to his longing for deeper intimacy and more expansive sexuality.

However, he is a product of our culture (as are you). As such, he has received negative programming:

- Aging is bad and should be avoided

- People are only worthwhile (male or female) if they are young

- To be a real man, a guy must always be horny and have orgasms.

- A real man, a real stud, is with women who rate a 10 on the airbrushed model scale.

- Emotions are dangerous.

I encourage you to have compassion for yourself and your beloved.

Each relationship is an opportunity to grow and to heal to the next level whether or not it lasts a lifetime.

I would be honored to be of service when you come to San Francisco.

It takes practice, and time to shift these cultural messages and to deepen the courage to be ever more present and vulnerable.

I recommend the DVD:

“Ancient Secrets of Sexual Ecstasy”

Warmth and blessings,
Francesca

]]> by: Lori Carter http://blogs.personallifemedia.com/sex-tantra-kama-sutra/2007/06/29/sacred-sex-on-playboy-radio/#comment-225 Sun, 02 Sep 2007 14:17:48 +0000 http://blogs.personallifemedia.com/sex-tantra-kama-sutra/2007/06/29/sacred-sex-on-playboy-radio/#comment-225 Hi Francesca, A man in my life sent me your link and I am quite intrigued will continue reading your info. Curious about the hormone? supplements? Perhaps he and I will see you togeather if you do that when I come to San Francisco to visit him in Oct. My question: I have been seeing this man for a year, long distance I think we have averaged monthly visits I am 54 he is 59. I exersise, do yoga eat right etc. I learned how to make myself happy before getting involved. Feel a strong spiritual connection with this man and we have both undoubtably grown this year and continue to. I have noticed that I have felt increasingly bad about my appearance in being with him. I get compliments regularly and know I am attractive but he is always telling me what I can do to look younger, he has a intense need for validation from young women, the emotional and spiritual growth has been sufficient that I have continued to show up. This issue affects my comfort and feeling safe sexually with him. He talks with me and is suggestive sexually with me all the time on the phone but then when we are togeather, we will start making love then he seems disconnected almost immediately and will say something negative about me, does not look at me and does not seem to want to touch and explore my body, I almost wonder at times if he even feels my touch, this has been very confusing. I try to talk with him about these things but that is equally confusing he says all the right things, spends and enourmous amount of time, I think connecting on the internet with women, but face to face, body to body contact is such a different story I end up feeling extremely sad and blamed for not being young enough,juicy enough and I used to feel so great...I do not know if he expects me to supply the feelings he is missing in himself or what. Prior to this I was married 2xs 10yrs and 18 yrs. Sex was technically good but there was no emotional intimacy and I wanted to hold out for what I truly wanted this time. Anyway if you see couples as I said perhaps I will get to meet you, in the meantime suggestions? Thank you for your time. Be Well, Lori Carter Hi Francesca, A man in my life sent me your link and I am quite intrigued will continue reading your info. Curious about the hormone? supplements?
Perhaps he and I will see you togeather if you do that when I come to San Francisco to visit him in Oct. My question: I have been seeing this man for a year, long distance I think we have averaged monthly visits I am 54 he is 59. I exersise, do yoga eat right etc. I learned how to make myself happy before getting involved. Feel a strong spiritual connection with this man and we have both undoubtably grown this year and continue to. I have noticed that I have felt increasingly bad about my appearance in being with him. I get compliments regularly and know I am attractive but he is always telling me what I can do to look younger, he has a intense need for validation from young women, the emotional and spiritual growth has been sufficient that I have continued to show up. This issue affects my comfort and feeling safe sexually with him. He talks with me and is suggestive sexually with me all the time on the phone but then when we are togeather, we will start making love then he seems disconnected almost immediately and will say something negative about me, does not look at me and does not seem to want to touch and explore my body, I almost wonder at times if he even feels my touch, this has been very confusing. I try to talk with him about these things but that is equally confusing he says all the right things, spends and enourmous amount of time, I think connecting on the internet with women, but face to face, body to body contact is such a different story I end up feeling extremely sad and blamed for not being young enough,juicy enough and I used to feel so great…I do not know if he expects me to supply the feelings he is missing in himself or what. Prior to this I was married 2xs 10yrs and 18 yrs. Sex was technically good but there was no emotional intimacy and I wanted to hold out for what I truly wanted this time. Anyway if you see couples as I said perhaps I will get to meet you, in the meantime suggestions? Thank you for your time. Be Well, Lori Carter

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