Thank you for being a Sacred Sexual Journeyer, like me.

Over the past 10 years, I have spent quite a bit of time in “sex positive” communities. There I have found people that are tired of the messages they have gotten in our culture that sex, aging, emotions, and the body itself are bad.

They are making the effort and taking the time to change their internal conditioning. Often, the first topic of “bad” messaging that they take on changing is the attitude toward sex.

With reading, experimentation, workshops, and in new communities they begin to shift.
If you were a fly on the wall in these groups you might hear phrases like:

- I used to think my pussy or cock was ugly, now I think s/he is beautiful

- I used to hate or be afraid of sex, now I love fucking and coming

- I used to be afraid of my own pleasure or desire, now I can’t get enough of it

- I’m so happy I’ve found other cocks, dicks, cunts, and pussies that love to fuck, love pleasure, love coming, like me.

- My clitoris and vagina used to feel numb, now I can feel so much pleasure. I just want more. I love that men want to “do” me and give me pleasure.

- I didn’t know how to “do” a vagina, clitoris, or g-spot. Now, I do and I’m so proud of myself. I want to “do” more pussies. I want to show off my talent and feel her pleasure.

It is wonderful that we can train ourselves to shift from hating our own desires and genitals into celebrating pleasure. However, many people will stop there never realizing their is so much more deliciousness to be discovered.

The deliciousness that I’m talking about is SACRED sexuality.

Sacred sexuality includes pleasure, experimentation, discovery, and play yet it goes further and is more holistic and healing.

In Sacred sexuality, we learn to celebrate our emotional truth, our whole bodies, our aging, our vulnerability, and our own greatness. We learn to do that for our beloved.

We become integrated, real, alive, authentic, and connected to spirit. We love and celebrate the whole package (darkness and light of light, love, aging, emotions and the body).

We deepen into compassion for ourselves and others. We learn to relax and breathe all our feelings and pleasures throughout our whole bodies.

We discover the courage (strong heart) to deepen in love and intimacy. We learn to speak our desires, and boundaries with clarity, fairness, win/win and compassion.

We open to loving ourselves, one another, and the Divine. We rebuild trust in ourselves, one another, and the world. Sex becomes a prayerful dance, poetry, and a love poem. A session of Sacred Sexuality with our beloved nourishes our heart, body, mind, spirit and erotic nature for days.

Word are important in Sacred Sexuality. Words are magic, invocation, evocation, and the power of naming.

Words like cunt, pussy, cock, dick, can be shaming or arousing. Many of them contain harsh consonants (the “k” sound) or past associations which are not pleasant.

Words like:

MALE: magic wand, life giving tree, seed bearer, pleasure giver, life force, vajra, lingam, beloved phallus

FEMALE: pleasure portal, well of life, jewel of the lotus, sacred garden, sacred well of pleasure, yoni, beloved vulva

do not hold shame. They are words of love. Words of honor. Words of invocation.

When we are sex negative, we don’t want to talk about, or to, our genitals at all.

When we are sex positive, we work at reclaiming fuck words.

When we are Sacred Sexual, our hearts open to awe, appreciation, and tenderness. We speak to our beloved’s genitals with praise, honor, and love.

Oh my genitalia, you beautiful source of life itself.

Thank you for bringing me pleasure and connecting me to my passion.

You are my radiant guide to integration and wholiness.

Thank you for the times you have been sad, angry, conflicted, confused, numb, or in pain. Your feelings of suffering have led me into the journey of my bliss.

Oh your beautiful genitals, you are a wonder and a delight to my soul.

Your power and fragility move me.

You capacity for pleasure astounds me.

I am blessed to share with you this journey of life, of love, of divinity, and death.

Thank you for each moment you share your life with me.

What love letter would you write to your genitals or that of your beloveds?