Do some relationships have a “use-by” date? Is some love ever-lasting?  Is a divorce or a break up an example of a “failed relationship.”  If I have one date with someone and then realize that person is never willing to have a second date - they don’t call, they are evasive, they give me a fake phone number at the end of the date - have I failed?

I was talking to Wendy Strgar, CEO of Good Clean Love, a line of earth-friendly, all natural, love and intimacy products.  Wendy’s interest extends well beyond making earth-sustainable products to making love sustainable. Wendy has a lot of great ideas to revitalize relationships, to spice-up relationships, to help people make their relationship sweet and sexy and successful.

At the other end of the relationship spectrum, I interviewed Ian Coburn about his failures to find relationship. Ian has some great insights into the attitudes and behaviors that increase the likelihood of getting a date and of getting a second date.  He’s a funny guy and his advice all comes from his personal failures, which makes the advice feel more “real” than some other dating experts I’ve encountered.
And on next week’s show I talk to Julia Allison and Mary Rambin, hosts of TMI Weekly, a lifestyle video-cast, about dating and sex in the world of upwardly mobile, successful twenty-somethings.  They’re two beautiful, successful women, both looking for love, but finding dates, and often not even finding dates.

I’m wondering, is all love some version of the same basic thing, like all light is fundamentally the same.  And like light, sometimes when we love it’s a candle - beautiful, romantic, but temporary.  And sometimes when we love, it’s a star - also beautiful and romantic - maybe not everlasting, but certainly lasting beyond our human experience of time.

Last year I interviewed Brian Swimme, cosmologist and author.  He talked about the attraction found throughout the known universe - gravity, electricity, atomic strong and weak bonds.  Swimme talked about love as that fundamental universal attraction made conscious.  If I understood him correctly, he speculated that perhaps that was our human “purpose”, to turn this fundamental attractive force into love.