You or your partner’s sexual desire may appear to be dead, but it’s probably just dormant. Bring it back to life by taking an inventory of your relationship and trying the below suggestions…

Connection- Address resentment/anger- Are there issues and/or conflicts in the relationship that haven’t been discussed or worked thru? Relationship problems are the most common libido killers. Work on nurturing the relationship and creating connection by incorporating the three T’s (Touch, Talking, Time together) into your relationship.

Sexual boredom and/or dissatisfaction- Be courageous and try new things; make a detailed list of what you will do, absolutely won’t do, and what you might be willing to try. Then discuss and make specific requests to your partner. Ask your partner to do the same.

In and out sex and sex that focuses on the genitals can becomes boring and unsatisfying. Conscious connected sex can reawaken desire. Be present and focus on feelings and on personal pleasure.

Increase Sexual Anticipation- What puts you in the mood? What puts your partner in the mood? Fantasy, reading erotica, or even watching sexually explicit films can do a lot to get our juices flowing. And don’t forget teasing…our desire is increased when there is an obstacle present (taboo, time, distance, etc.). Make a mutual decision to ban intercourse or orgasm for a week and just focus on the pleasure you’re feeling.

Remember the effort you made when you were wooing your current partner? You need to give your relationship and your partner consistent effort to sustain the passion of a new relationship. If you make daily loving gestures and focus on the things you love and appreciate about your partner, you will have a more passionate sex life.