Wow! I would not have known it was National Girlfriend’s Day if it weren’t for the amazing Debba Haupert, founder of Girlfriendology.com! What a great way to welcome in August and the fire that comes with Leo - send some love and energy to your girlfriends!
In my recent interview with the fun and informative founder, Debba Haupert, we see what the support of girlfriends can create! She is all about supporting women connect with each other and share inspiring stories so we KNOW all of our dreams CAN come true.

Check out our JFW Interview and listen in to why it is so important to stay connected to women in our lives and how to do that through Girlfriendology.com! She has a lot of great info, contests and ways to connect with women - so visit Girlfriendology.com today.

And for more great exercises, tools and wisdom in manifesting your dreams into reality - get your copy of my book Alissa’s Four Cornerstone’s to Living your Dreams today!

I made this picture with my MacBook in iPhoto. I love my laptop - it instantly offers me a multitude of ways to play!

I am sitting here in the San Francisco airport waiting to fly to Chicago for a summer of the massage with Cirque du Soleil. Woohoo! I was feeling great, typing my notes from a course I just did over the weekend. Then it happened. A group of three women, employees with the airlines, sat down next to me and began talking. They weren’t just talking – they were complaining - and my whole world started to shift.

First I felt my body tighten and tension started creeping into my shoulders. That was because one of the women had a really high-pitched voice and when she got exceptionally passionate about her complaints, it was though a tea kettle full of boiling water was going off and my body literally cringed.

That was when it really sank in - how WOMEN are being, whether we realize it or not, can impact an entire room. I am more aware of this impact since the course I did over the weekend was all about Being a Queen. This course, created by Alison Armstrong is a MUST DO for any women ready to claim her power as a woman.

The impact of this course on me has been profound. I have whole new perspectives and approaches on how to live my life in service of others and myself. I realize the importance of taking care of myself and living my dreams. I learned what FEMININE POWER is and how to operate from that magical place. I learned the importance of radiating my beauty into the world. I got to experience a panel of men who have restored my inner knowing that men are LOVING, kind, truly truly want to provide for and take care of us, think we are gorgeous, and are doing the best they can.

The effects of complaining are covered in the course - it is a huge downer for all in earshot – it is a great way to KILL connection and intimacy with men. When men hear complaining, they don’t really know what to do, they are here to provide for us and when we are focused on what we don’t want and what we don’t like, it is really useless information for men who are designed to offer themselves in service of us. I whole new paradigm in thinking – I know!

I know we all need to vent sometimes, but I think complaining has become a common reaction to WHAT IS without a second thought to how that heavy, negative energy is going to affect us and those around us. We must rethink what we speak!

We are the life bringers. It is time women realized this gift, right and POWER. Celebrating Women: Ecstasy and Power is a timely course for women who want transformational information on how to restore themselves to full power from a center of being FEMININE.

AMEN!

Recently I interviewed Susan Urquhart Brown, author of The Accidental Entrepreneur about what it takes to be a success in the wild entrepreneurial world. Her message resonates with that of many of the Experts I have interviewed on Just for Women. There is just no escape. We are the creators of or world, our experience, our success, our failure. We are the authors of it all whether we want to take the responsibility for ourselves or not.

Suffering comes from relinquishing this responsibility to others and not stepping up and into our lives as the master creator. If we really take a look, it seems as though we perpetually unconsciously think we are somehow going to get what we want by chance, by avoiding taking action or waiting for someone else to do it. It is funny when we actually look into our complaints and issues - more often than not, we can see many places where we can take responsibility for the condition of a situation.

Everyday is filled with millions of moments where we can choose happiness, action, love, to give attention, to offer a smile, to extend a hand or a kind word. There is no one else who can do that for us. The amazing power we have to make up, change, and set our own MINDS on what we are going to do is one of the greatest gifts of being human! Let’s use the power of our minds to create success from the inside, out!
Tune into this great interview with Susan Urquhart Brown and be re-inspired to take action toward having the life and career of your dreams - you know, the one you REALLY want to have! : )

Drs. Janae and Barry Weinhold - Pioneers in the Conscious Evolution of how we can Return to Love…

Have you ever wondered why you keep repeating the same patterns relationship after relationship?

Are you tired of being frustrated with your partner and ready to look at what is REALLY going on?

Well, I know women are dealing with these kinds of issues (because I do too!) and I wanted some serious insight into how we can have more fun, love and intimacy for ourselves and in our lives - especially our intimate relationships.

Recently, I interviewed Janae Weinhold, Ph.D about her fascinating book (she wrote with her husband Dr. Barry Weinhold), Flight from Intimacy. Ladies, if there is one book you read this year on your journey to self-empowerment, have this be it.

This book is an in-depth, comprehensive guide to becoming aware of the unconscious behaviors you may be exhibiting in your life (and with your intimate partner - agghh!) that serve to destroy intimacy, keep you safe, confused and struggling.

The questionnaires and charts in this book alone, will open you up to a whole new world of awareness that when you look at it, you might not believe that behaviors you thought were “normal” are really behaviors that were learned at a very young age to survive and really no longer serve.

You will awaken to that fact that if we did not go through the natural processes of bonding and separation before, during and after birth properly, we are most likely trying to get these needs met unconsciously as adults. Herein lies many of the answers to the questions that might plague us in our intimate relationships!

So in honor of Father’s Day, I am writing about awareness of what our relationships with our fathers are and were like and how we can heal from them, if they were not healthy. For me, my relationship with my father was not very healthy until I took it upon myself to heal old wounds with him when I was in my 20’s. He did the Landmark Forum which altered his life and his approach to how he related to me and the rest of the family. Although he is no longer alive, I am so glad I got the opportunity to heal rifts with him before he passed on.

In reading Flight from Intimacy, I got to really look at unconscious behaviors I have assumed as an adult that directly related to not getting what I needed as a infant from my parents. This is not an excuse to now resent or disparage my parents, but rather a way to have compassion that they were doing the best they could at the time and now it is time for me to give Myself what I need to be whole.
I am happy that I can look back on my years with my father and focus on the one’s where we shared, loved and supported one another even though the childhood years were very different. If you have strife with your father or the men in your life, it is time to forgive and heal. In unity with millions of other women, we must take the lead to heal our wounds and thus promote peace on the planet. Peace, of course, comes from within, and this interview will give you a big leg-up in how to take the first steps.
Please tune in to this deeply mind expanding interview! Enjoy!

Tripp is a great, honest, open man who coaches men in being the best men they can be. In this “no bullshit” interview with coach and facilitator Tripp Lanier, we get some very straight talk about not only what women can do to be successful with men, but what kind of approach is really required. Not one to give shallow answers, Tripp offers us very insightful ideas to consider when going for all you want in your Love life.

In this interview we cover:

1. What is a “New Man” and what do we need to know about him?
2. Taking sex beyond the physical realm
3. The importance of your man being “seen”
4. Why receiving “well” is an important skill to hone

In this interview we address a question from one of the JFW subscribers. So, if you have a question or issue you have been wanting to ask about, or a topic you have been wanting to hear addressed on the show – let me know – I do respond and I will get your questions and comments answered! Thank you, I Love getting your emails, so please feel free to contact me at Alissa@personallifemedia.com

One of the reasons I LOVE hosting Just for Women is that I get to research and learn from some of the MOST incredible Love and Relationship experts in the field today. I am clear that doing this in-depth work over the past year has helped me clear out some old, unconscious beliefs about myself and awaken me to my deep self love and self worth.

It is from this place of honoring myself, learning to have strong boundaries and following my own vision for how I want my life to go, that I have the great pleasure of being in a relationship that makes my heart feel at home. Calm, supported, warm, paid attention to, held, loved, cherished, and at peace are the words I use to describe how I feel in this relationship. And according to a recent interview with Charlotte Kasl, author of the acclaimed book If the Buddha Dated, I am right on target.

We tend to forget that the design of relationship is learn about ourselves, to have compassion for each other and our humanity. It is about growing love, for ourselves, our lovers, our children and the world. It is about maturity, cooperation, understanding who each other is (as a gender) and allowing our unique gifts to shine.

But if our models for relationship growing up did not teach us the real, intended design of the glory of relating, then how would we ever know it? Well mostly we don’t and so we suffer. We suffer enough until we cry UNCLE and then we start to seek understand and support. This is what happened to me.

I am so glad I cried Uncle and gave up that I knew anything about how to have a successful relationship, men or what men needed to commit to me for a lifetime. It was from this place that all the vulnerability and love and innocence (we tend to avoid in life) became my way of life. It was from this place, I met one of the most solid, smart, open and loving men I had been intending to meet for a very long time.

Rick and I are here to do some deep work together. We are completely clear of the design of what relationship will bring up, how important bringing 100% responsibility to the relationship is, and that LOVE is the foundation and never-ending goal of each interaction we have together.

So wherever you are in life, single, married, divorced, widowed; LOVE yourself FIRST!! It is the key to all of your dreams coming true. If you are not loving yourself, you have little love to give. Until I really started loving myself and opening up to the Inquiry of what Love and being in an intimate relationship are all about, I was lost in despair and ego-driven living. Free yourself, your mind and your heart. You are in the perfect place - LOVE IT. And from there, you will attract what will sustain, honor and nurture you all the days of your life.

Namaste.

As I am sitting here in bed (don’t get jealous, I strained my back and have been laid out for days!) I came across a blog posting from two of my favorite Sex Coaches, Celeste and Danielle, that reminded me of the power and blessing that it is to be a woman.
They write “all women are sensuous goddesses whose bodies can experience sensation and pleasure and whose hearts can experience passion and connection… return to the knowledge that you are already a perfect, luscious and yes, sexual, being.”

Ah, isn’t it fantastic that we can hop online and in a few seconds be reminded of all the fabulousness of being alive, a woman, a sexual being, a goddess…

If you are wanting a great shot in the arm of the magnificence of being a woman, check out my interview with Celeste and Danielle who inspire all of us to be the greatest women we can be and who actively show us how.

Most of the issues we deal with in life, come from our confusion about who we are as women, which is at the heart of the work that Celeste and Danielle do. We think we have to forego our wants and desires to please others. We think we should give and give and give while receiving is frowned upon. It seems to be the most difficult thing to allow ourselves PLEASURE. Well, it is time to start getting back into balance with the amount of hard work we do by allowing ourselves that same amount of pleasure!

We MUST learn how to ask for what we want and also how to RECEIVE. It took me two days of lying on my back with tears in my eyes before I got on the phone to ask friends for some help. And it took me a second to receive all the love that came back when I asked for what I wanted.

Once we start exercising that ARM (Asking and Receiving Muscle), we start to see all the love available around us. And you know who stepped up the most? The men in my life - men ReAlly like to provide for women! We just have to ask them and let them do it. Men want to be our hero and when we allow ourselves to ask men for what we want and let them know how important they are in our lives, they just beam. Really, try it. And let me know how it goes.

One of my BIG charges in life is to connect people with information, books, courses, and people who will change their lives. Debbie Ford is that kind of woman. It is SUCH a joy to have her on Just for Women and our latest interview is another riveting heart-opener that will leave you inspired to take action in your life!
I remember when I packed my car and drove across the country on my way to live in California, I had tears streaming down my face. I KNEW deep in my soul that there was more to life than I was living at the time. I had a good job, nice boyfriend, comfortable apartment in Cambridge, MA and still I knew there was something more I longed for.
I was “programmed” you could say, from parents, friends and society to think that what I had created was good enough. Why upset the apple cart? Why move so far away? You are supposed to be near your family. You are going to be so lonely out there. It is SO dangerous for a single woman to be out there on her own. On and on, but I had to honor the deeper longing in my heart that moving (on my own) to the Bay Area, was the best, most productive thing for ME.
Don’t get me wrong, I was scared to leave my comfortable life in New England, but it was more scary to me to stay and resign myself to a life that didn’t feel deeply fulfilling. We all need to FLY in our lives. It is so important for us to discover who we are beyond what our friend/work circles, parents and society say we should be.
It is time for us to learn how to not only discover our deepest desires and hidden truths, but to have the guts to make the changes NOW to live them!

Check out this powerful interview with Debbie Ford - I believe her words will touch your heart, stimulate your mind and inspire you into action!

I know it is not common (and maybe even shocking to some) to think that going deeper in our sexual expression is access to living more fulfilled, happy, balanced and joyful lives. We are conditioned to work, work, work, take care of our lovers, take care of our kids, cook, clean, aaaaaaagggghhhhh! When the heck do we ever take the time to focus on deepening our knowledge and experience of our sexual expression? Are we even AWARE of the benefits of a healthy and active sex life? Do we even know the kinds of orgasm our own bodies are capable of having?

Well I have some NEWS you can USE my sisters! In an interview I did with Celeste Hirschman and Danielle Harel, amazing and informative Sex and Intimacy Coaches, we talked a lot about what exactly Sex Coaching is and how it can help transform your LIFE and give you access to incredible power. Sex and Intimacy Coaching with Celeste and Danielle is about designing sessions that are customized to match your unique goals and desires and can cover anything from:

Learning to express emotions (primarily anger, which Celeste says “is a gift of someones true feelings.” “Rage and resentment that go unexpressed turn to decay, we must work beyond it where connection and intimacy lie,” she adds.)

Understanding Somatic Intelligence - releasing trauma that can be held in body - having touch be more pleasurable.

Learning about the many types of Orgasm - clitoral, G-spot, anal, cervical, skin, heart, vaginal, multiple, etc. (!)

Discovering and experiencing the healing power of orgasm - energy exchange, connection, intimacy, emotional release, chemicals that heal your body, etc.

Access to hands on training - deep safety is created with words (talking), visualization techniques with clients being able to go beyond books and audio tutorials, into more specific demonstration and experience.

Masterbation - which Celeste says is any kind of loving touch, hugging, kissing, cuddling (Who knew?)

Learning that sexual energy is life force - learning to mend rifts between spirituality and sexuality, discovering they can co-exist in a healthy way! We can learn to free ourselves from denying our sexuality, and expand our curiosity and sexual experiences.

They also help men become better lovers! The men practice techniques with female support staff so they can come home to you and blow your body and mind open (a.k.a. YUM).

Please check out this GREAT interview with Celeste and Danielle and expand your mind, body and spirit today!

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