To recap Aymee Coget’s Break Up Formula thus far:
1) Acknowledge the Break Up
2) Accept the Break Up

Step 3 is to Identify Learning Lessons. In this stage you create a living list of things you learned about yourself or things you learned about yourself in relationship. Lessons such as learning more about what you need, what your boundaries are, what you realize you really want in a partner, what kind of sex you desire, what kind of things make you feel great (or not), values, things that are non-negotiable, etc. You get the drift.

Aymee learned that it is possible to have fun, be close, feel at peace and comfortable with a man at a depth she had not felt before. She experienced a sex life she never dreamed possible. YES you really can have multiple orgasms and ejaculate over and over and over again. What is also possible, that Aymee discovered was a tantric, energetic connection with her lover that she never experienced before. Now those are some GREAT (hot) lessons if you ask me.

I am starting to see that by staying present to the gifts our relationships with men (or women) provide us, it is much easier to cope with the separation. We always have the choice of what we allow our minds and our thoughts to focus on. It is up to us to focus on the positive, the love, the honoring, the sweetness, the sharing, the passion, the intimacy and the deep vulnerability that orgasm and connection can bring into our lives if we allow that kind of magic in.