In this chaotic, neurotic, fast-paced, rat race, keep-up-with-the-Jones’, “ego too big to own this” American culture, more and more people are seeking respite from the insanity in meditation practice. Meditating has been proven to show some serious health benefits that you may not be aware of.
“Meditation can help reverse heart disease, the number-one killer in the U.S.

It can reduce pain and enhance the body’s immune system, enabling it to better fight disease.
Meditation has a pervasive effect on stress. (People who had meditated for four months and found that they produced less of the stress hormone cortisol.)”  Quoted from a great article in Psychology Today.

We hear a lot about cortisol and the damaging effects of stress in an interview I do with Stress Management Expert, Louise Lowry. In our two part series of interviews with Louise, a powerful professional stress expert and coach, she covers the major contributors to our stress, some alternative approaches to relieving stress as well as information on a new crisis that is affecting the “Milennials” of today called the “Quarter Life Crisis.”

Check it out. Then go sit and just be…

The final step in Aymee Coget’s Break Up Formula is Letting Go.

To recap the Steps thus far:
1) Acknowledge the Break Up
2) Accept the Break Up
3) Identify Learning Lessons
4) Express Gratitude for the Learning Lessons

Now we have done a lot of good work here, and it is time to move on. Aymee recommends, in order to fully release the relationship on all levels, you have to perform steps One through Four, otherwise, the effectiveness of Step Five could be compromised.

The Letting Go Exercise:
In the Letting Go step you stand in room by yourself, where you are not going to be disturbed. Close your eyes and cultivate every ounce of pain, worry, resentment, fear, guilt, shame sadness, the relationship has caused. Cultivate that to the surface of your skin, letting it consume every cells of your body.
When you can’t take it anymore, take a deep inhale and at the same time raise your arms up along either side of your body culminating at the top of your head. As you exhale, you press your hands down either side of your body like a human French coffee press all the way until your hands touch the ground. You should feel a shift in your body.

If you feel like there is still residual energy in your system, repeat the process until you feel totally relieved.

By releasing this old energy, you can more easily cultivate self love, self worth, self-esteem, self-acceptance, confidence, happiness, and optimism - feel that in every cell of your body. You have to create a space for this nourishing energy in your body which is why we need to first release the old energy.

Next, cultivate positive emotions of hope, confidence, security, love, acceptance, happiness, etc. until those emotions fill your every cell. Then take another deep breath and raise your hands to the air. Instead of pressing down, visualize accepting these new feelings into your body from top down while pressing your hands down on either side of your body. Visualize the sensations of being “filled” instead of “releasing.”

When I spoke with Aymee she hadn’t yet completed this step. We will have to check in with her in a week or two. Still – that is the quickest, most sane break-up I have ever been privy to. To be honest, I have never seen her “spin out” on charged emotion. She is pretty even keeled even through this intense situation. I am glad we have an empowered woman in our corner.

Check her out, she is available for powerful coaching in how to live a HAPPY LIFE - she walks her talk - that is for sure.
Namaste.

This is Aymee taking a bath in my tub the night after the break up. We lit candles and used the BEST bath crystals on earth (www.abratherapeutics.com) in her bath. Sisters taking care of each other post break up!
To recap Aymee Coget’s Break up Formula thus far:
1) Acknowledge the Break Up
2) Accept the Break Up
3) Identify Learning Lessons

Now we are going to talk about Expressing Gratitude and getting to an authentic place where we truly can offer our “Ex” thanks for the learning lessons. Expressing gratitude is scientifically proven to lead to happiness which is why it is a fundamental component of the Break Up Formula.

The morning after the break up, Aymee sent an email to her “Ex” expressing her gratitude for the learning lessons of their time together (it is possible to have fun, be close, feel at peace and comfortable with a man at a depth she had not felt before, sex life she never dreamed possible, etc.) She also tied up logistical loose ends and expressed desire to transition into friendship when he was ready.

I was amazed at Aymee’s ability to keep clear and stay in touch with the greatness this man had brought into her life even though he was now choosing to walk away. I write about the power in giving gratitude in my book “Four Cornerstone’s to Living your Dreams” as I also understand the joy that comes from offering sincere, heartfelt gratitude for what we had been given and experienced with another. Again, offering forgiveness to ourselves (and thus another) is an essential component to consistently practice if we truly desire to move on from a break up.
Offering gratitude demonstrates maturity, clear mindedness, and your ability to love and honor yourself. When we stay focused on all that we have and can be thankful for, more things to be grateful for flows to us. Luckily it is the same with love. The sooner we get back into a place of love and gratitude, the sooner the next great man will come into our lives to mirror back to us what we are expressing.
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Next posting is all about LETTING GO!

To recap Aymee Coget’s Break Up Formula thus far:
1) Acknowledge the Break Up
2) Accept the Break Up

Step 3 is to Identify Learning Lessons. In this stage you create a living list of things you learned about yourself or things you learned about yourself in relationship. Lessons such as learning more about what you need, what your boundaries are, what you realize you really want in a partner, what kind of sex you desire, what kind of things make you feel great (or not), values, things that are non-negotiable, etc. You get the drift.

Aymee learned that it is possible to have fun, be close, feel at peace and comfortable with a man at a depth she had not felt before. She experienced a sex life she never dreamed possible. YES you really can have multiple orgasms and ejaculate over and over and over again. What is also possible, that Aymee discovered was a tantric, energetic connection with her lover that she never experienced before. Now those are some GREAT (hot) lessons if you ask me.

I am starting to see that by staying present to the gifts our relationships with men (or women) provide us, it is much easier to cope with the separation. We always have the choice of what we allow our minds and our thoughts to focus on. It is up to us to focus on the positive, the love, the honoring, the sweetness, the sharing, the passion, the intimacy and the deep vulnerability that orgasm and connection can bring into our lives if we allow that kind of magic in.