In this month’s OPRAH magazine, LOVE is the theme. She has an article entitled “8 entirely new ideas about Love.” At first I was a little skeptical since I have read MANY books and articles on the topic and wondered what could possibly be “entirely new” about Love? But the researchers actually offer some depth and insight to an age-old, yummy, wild, beautiful, intense subject we all are drawn to read about, feel, give and receive: LOVE!
Step one is to be very picky. I agree - pickiness is another word for “I know the stellar man I want to be with and I am going to be patient and continue to have a great life until he shows up.”

The second is about the importance of “The Preparation, not the Journey.” Here researchers say that being IN SYNC with our partners is key, and if we aren’t we will be depleted, exhausted and less effective. Most women will kick into their Masculine Energy to compensate for a partner who cant or wont or who is unconscious of being “count-on-able.” So, yes - if he’s not in the FLOW - he’s gotta GO! : )

Third is Celebrate versus Commiserate. Take time to give acknowledgment (verbal, gifts, notes, etc) to your partner and hold space in the in rough moments. Basically - fluff your lover up any chance you get and don’t have a pity party when things aren’t great.

Fourth is about the power in being VULNERABLE. We have heard this many times in the JFW interviews, and we can’t hear it enough. Check out the recent interview with three Relationship Experts (http://personallifemedia.com/podcasts/just-for-women/episode009-real-deal-modern-men.html)

for first hand proof that men LOVE it when we are vulnerable.

The fifth idea is about “initiating three pleasure points a day.” A pleasure point is a 60-second action that will connect you with your lover or partner. Examples are: having a long kiss, sending a text message filled with love, a joke or a restaurant review with a suggestion for eating there tonight. I LOVE this concept and the awareness this raises about how to be sexy and IN SYNC with your love throughout our busy days.

The sixth idea is about tackling major relationship issues before a baby arrives. Basically, it is all about cultivating TEAMWORK early-on in a relationship because when baby comes, they will act out if the parents are not aligned. This is great news for us single gals who are still SORTING through the potentials…

The seventh idea is Quite Refreshing - a study being developed that will help couples stay together by going through a “Marriage Checkup.” In the meantime it is critcally important to be able to answer YES to the following questions:

1) Does my partner feel safe being emotionally vulnerable with me?

2) Does my partner feel accepted?

3) Can I go to my partner for non-judgmental support?

The last idea is about nudging your partner to make changes without alienating them with less-than-supportive comments like “Cant you stop being a slob?” They key is in asking NICELY for small changes coupled with appreciation when movement is made in that direction. To hear more on this - check out the interview I did with Kristine Catalina that goes live this week!
All in all - pretty good info. It is amazing how much information there is about RELATIONSHIPS and how to be effective in them. That is what my show is about - bringing you the latest and greatest information on how to be the BEST woman you can be and have the GREATEST life imaginable!

May we all find success in the delicate dance of giving and receiving, setting and maintaining boundaries and LOVING with grace and wild abandon.

Namaste ~