This weeks interview finds us learning about a tool that can change your life. Not only that, using your OWN “Internal Guidance System” you don’t need to BUY anything from anyone else! You don’t need to stay stuck or confused or spinning in a vat of disempowering thoughts - and we have ALL been there!

This week you are going to learn about a VERY special and powerful tool - that I personally have been using since I learned of it - which can literally change the way you operate in life - without much effort at all!

Zen DeBrucke, creator of the Ahuma Institute and developer of this powerful “IGS” system (see www.powermanifestation.com) shows us how simple it is to TUNE INTO our own bodies guidance and knowledge to make the choices that are appropriate to who we are and what we deeply desire to have.

Check out this transformative interview at www.personallifemedia.com/podcasts/just-for-women/dating-relationships-sex-show.html

I would LOVE to have your feedback, questions, comments, etc - so please feel free to contact me!

Enjoy!

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Just for Women launched in March 2007 on the Personal Life Media Network and I am glad to say we are steadily gaining listeners and subscribers.

Right about now though, I want to get into the hearts and minds of you! What do you want to hear? Who do you want me to interview? What are you suffering about? What are you excited about and want to hear more of?

What other podcasts do you get?

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Thank you. Thank you for taking the time to read this and I hope you take a few moments to respond!

Namaste ~

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If you are a woman, or know a woman who is ready to take the next step, read on….

When I woke up on Sunday morning I felt cranky. I thought it was because I my heart was yearning for the man I am dating ~ who is in the Sierra Mountains training people how to deal effectively with teenagers before they all trek around China. (How totally cool is that!?)

So I decided to go to the beach - alone. I needed some alone time with the ocean and the sand and my spirit. I could have called friends, talked all day, listened to stories and given my input… and avoided feeling the deep sadness that was now welling up in my heart…that I couldn’t really get to the bottom of.

After a chilly dip in the ocean and some time to sink into the warm blanket of sun and sand I wrapped myself in, something broke open. Maybe it was watching the gorgeous little goddesses with their crazy-curled blonde locks squealing with delight at the touch of the frosty ocean tickling their tiny toes. Or maybe it was me feeling the desire to have a wide-eyed, giggly, curious, loving light beam of my own to run up and offer me the riches of the sea she had just discovered.

No, that wasn’t it. Well, that was part of it. But the flood of tears came when I realized I missed my father. I missed talking to him. I missed telling him about my life, my ups and downs and hearing him tell me it was all going to be OK even if he didn’t know how it would be. It has been four years now, but I don’t think you ever really get over losing your parents. Especially if it was sudden and unexpected.

That is how it was for me. I was 3000 miles away, planning a visit that got organized too late when I got “The Call” from my sister. So the next time I saw my father, he was in a casket, without life, without breath and there were no words to comfort me.

So here I am on the beach grieving this deep sadness I didn’t allow myself feel I guess, because here it was coming in waves like the ones glistening in front of me. One realization that made me sad was that my father would not be there to walk with me “down the aisle” - if I have an aisle… For some reason the thought of that really effected me and I let myself feel the devastation of feeling like I had failed. I didn’t know that was even in there.

After a good cry I felt relieved. So many of the experts I interview say that we need to FEEL our FEELINGS and let them go. That the body and mind want to release these emotions and move on to ones that really serve us. That it is the repression of our feelings that cause “dis-ease” and turmoil in our lives. So I cried into my warm salty towel and felt the pain of no longer having the gift of the presence one of my creators.

On the way home, I bought myself an ice cream (a vegan ice cream from Maggie Mudd that is) just like my father would have if he were here. I allowed myself to feel the joy of having healed so much with my father before he passed. I felt the relief of being on the other side of why I was feeling so cranky. I felt at PEACE and in love.

Many of the Relationship Experts I have been interviewing suggest that we take the time to make a list of things we WANT with wild abandon - “approach the experience like we already have it” recommends Kristine Catalina on the latest Just for Women interview.

The energy of desire, visualizing what we want, feeling into how it feels to have that thing will bring it to us faster. But before we get into our desires, it is important to be grateful for all that we ALREADY have - which is one of the cornerstone’s of my book - for that is the vibration that will attract your most recent desire!
So here is the list of what I am grateful for…

I am so grateful for the teachers in my life (Tata Erick, Kali Ma, Dr. Danielle Harel, all the guests on my show)

I am so grateful for the gorgeous, vibrant, smart, savvy women in my life who love and support me

I am so grateful for the bounty of organic foods and amazing vegan restaurants accessible to me here in San Francisco

I am so grateful for the opportunity to offer women information, tools, techniques, and resources that can change their lives

I am so grateful for the beautiful lovership in my life that feels so GOOD, I burst open like a flower in springtime everytime we connect

I am so grateful for the generous clients I am attracting into my life
OK - I feel so GOOD! From here, this open yummy place, I am going to tap into what I desire. And the key here is to ALSO state it as though I already have it - here goes!

I am so grateful for my new bio-diesel Jetta in dark green

I am so grateful for my abundant streams of passive income

I am so grateful for my clear consciousness

I am so grateful for my summer vacation filled with joy and amazing experiences

I am so grateful to be complete with all the men I have ever loved

I am so grateful for my trip to Guatemala this December

I am so grateful for the opportunity to be a guest of Oprah’s

I am so grateful to be living my purpose’s in this life

I am so grateful to be sailing on the ocean

I am so grateful for my huge savings account and IRA

I am so grateful for my trip to India, Nepal and Bhutan

I am so grateful to be traveling around the world as an inspirational speaker, healer with my gorgeous family

YEY! I feel so good! This exercise REALLY WORKS! I feel SO inspired!
Please listen to Just for Women for more great information, insightful conversations and useful tools you can use!

also visit:

www.celesteanddanielle.com - sex and intimacy coaches
www.kalima.org - Tantric Buddhist teachings
www.meetthedreamer.com - Alissa’s book
www.mayanshamanism.com - Mayan Shamanism info
www.manwomanmadeeasy.com - connect with Kristine Catalina

Namaste ~

In this month’s OPRAH magazine, LOVE is the theme. She has an article entitled “8 entirely new ideas about Love.” At first I was a little skeptical since I have read MANY books and articles on the topic and wondered what could possibly be “entirely new” about Love? But the researchers actually offer some depth and insight to an age-old, yummy, wild, beautiful, intense subject we all are drawn to read about, feel, give and receive: LOVE!
Step one is to be very picky. I agree - pickiness is another word for “I know the stellar man I want to be with and I am going to be patient and continue to have a great life until he shows up.”

The second is about the importance of “The Preparation, not the Journey.” Here researchers say that being IN SYNC with our partners is key, and if we aren’t we will be depleted, exhausted and less effective. Most women will kick into their Masculine Energy to compensate for a partner who cant or wont or who is unconscious of being “count-on-able.” So, yes - if he’s not in the FLOW - he’s gotta GO! : )

Third is Celebrate versus Commiserate. Take time to give acknowledgment (verbal, gifts, notes, etc) to your partner and hold space in the in rough moments. Basically - fluff your lover up any chance you get and don’t have a pity party when things aren’t great.

Fourth is about the power in being VULNERABLE. We have heard this many times in the JFW interviews, and we can’t hear it enough. Check out the recent interview with three Relationship Experts (http://personallifemedia.com/podcasts/just-for-women/episode009-real-deal-modern-men.html)

for first hand proof that men LOVE it when we are vulnerable.

The fifth idea is about “initiating three pleasure points a day.” A pleasure point is a 60-second action that will connect you with your lover or partner. Examples are: having a long kiss, sending a text message filled with love, a joke or a restaurant review with a suggestion for eating there tonight. I LOVE this concept and the awareness this raises about how to be sexy and IN SYNC with your love throughout our busy days.

The sixth idea is about tackling major relationship issues before a baby arrives. Basically, it is all about cultivating TEAMWORK early-on in a relationship because when baby comes, they will act out if the parents are not aligned. This is great news for us single gals who are still SORTING through the potentials…

The seventh idea is Quite Refreshing - a study being developed that will help couples stay together by going through a “Marriage Checkup.” In the meantime it is critcally important to be able to answer YES to the following questions:

1) Does my partner feel safe being emotionally vulnerable with me?

2) Does my partner feel accepted?

3) Can I go to my partner for non-judgmental support?

The last idea is about nudging your partner to make changes without alienating them with less-than-supportive comments like “Cant you stop being a slob?” They key is in asking NICELY for small changes coupled with appreciation when movement is made in that direction. To hear more on this - check out the interview I did with Kristine Catalina that goes live this week!
All in all - pretty good info. It is amazing how much information there is about RELATIONSHIPS and how to be effective in them. That is what my show is about - bringing you the latest and greatest information on how to be the BEST woman you can be and have the GREATEST life imaginable!

May we all find success in the delicate dance of giving and receiving, setting and maintaining boundaries and LOVING with grace and wild abandon.

Namaste ~