I have done quite a bit of research on this subject ~ women finding “The ONE” - you know, the person who is going to be our Savior, lover, friend, confidante, fixer of all things broken, including (dare I say it…) us.

Yes, more and more ALL the experts, authorities, scholars, and even our own longing hearts are pointing us away from this external source of supposed security, eternal satisfaction and bliss and more toward a deeper relationship, one that will REALLY last forever, one that will be a thousand times more fulfilling because it is unshakable, unmistakable and probably the most difficult and unfathomably rewarding relationship we will ever have.

I am learning, The ONE we are seeking is the ONE reading this text.

The only ONE who will ever give us the satisfaction and bliss we are looking for is the one who is thinking our thoughts and executing our actions.
There is no “OTHER” person who is going to come along and solve all our problems, make all our wounds go away, teach us how to save and invest money, tell us what our purpose in life is and how to go after that.  We might think there is ONE person willing to do all of that - but that is a TALL order and I sure I don’t want a job like that.
At the Himalayan Festival in Berkeley over the weekend, it became clear to me among the Nag Champa, mala beads and statues of Buddha and Ganesh that Eastern cultures are all about honoring the arduous journey from one’s head to one’s heart.

I was reminded of the comfort that comes from taking a little time everyday to sit and be QUIET and just BREATHE.  I was inspired to re-activate my meditation practice with some amazing Nepalese amethyst mala beads that I heard calling to me from the way back of a long string of rose quartz and adventurine strands.  I am serious.  They whispered…”take me” and for the unbelievable price of $18 - I did!

So here I sit typing with my gorgeous new shiny purple beads vibrating my right wrist, a beautiful reminder that the journey I am on right now is into my own heart and soul. For only I can make myself and my life happy and full of joy. Only I can say for sure how this life experience is going to go.  In the face of whatever arises - I have choice.

WE can be the ONE we are seeking.  At home in ourselves, our wants, desires, dreams and plans.  There is no amount of external gratification that can fill us up better than us taking care of ourselves - in ALL ways.
No man (or any other person) outside of ourselves needs to carry the burden of coming along and being our Prince Charming, our White Knight, our financial stability.  Among the cedar trees, Mongolian dancers, Tibetan tankas, amazing Chai and silk dresses, I bought a ring for myself. I put in on my “Wedding Ring” finger.  A sparkling reminder that I my first commitment is to MYSELF, my ONENESS, my Inner Journey, and enjoying the bountiful love available in my own heart, for myself.

NAMASTE.