Hi All,

This is Dr. Patti Taylor of ExpandedLovemaking.com.

Normally I like my shows to be pretty upbeat, a respite from a world gone all too serious.

So you may be wondering, is this show uncharacteristically solemn?

Our world is becoming so complex that we have to read the labels on all the boxes and foods we eat and clean with in order to avoid sex changes, mood changes, and …. worse? Ask yourself: do you want to be at choice about what you put in and on your body!

Even sex toys may be dangerous! Here’s a link on this scoop: http://victoria-e.com/2008/02/12/poisonous-plastics-in-your-sexy-playthings/

Yes, it’s come to that. So, I felt it important to mention that if you really want your sex life to shine, then you may really want to start paying attention to these things. Having challenges in the bedroom? It really may not all just be you… or your relationship. It really may be what you ate for dinner that’s causing you to be having a hard time!

To enumerate all the things you have to read would take way too long to read or to memorize in one sitting. It’s really a mind set one has to adopt and learn over time.

Our best bet is too keep educating ourselves. Dr. Haiden’s blog, http://gogreenlivehealthy.com/, is a great start. And there’s so much more, once you start looking! Constant vigilance is the best policy.

And, we are incredibly lucky to have a great show on this network, Living Green, that helps keep us informed about ways to stay more healthy.

Stay awake, alert, and turned on!

Dr. Patti

PS At the left of this column is our listener survey. Would you be kind enough to fill it out? It will help us get the sponsors we want and need to keep giving you the programming you love. Thank you so much in advance, Dr. Patti

Dear Expanded Lovemakers,

I hope you’re enjoying your new year so far! One easy way that you can expand pleasure in your life is simply to remove those activities that are cluttering up your psychic energy. It’s so easy to get “snowed under” with busy-ness, to the point where you can almost forget who you are, and, what is most near and dear to living life for you.

How to clear up the clutter? One easy way to start is to surround yourself with the friends, books, and messages that support you in living the life you want.

Taking action, of course, is the next step. All action, of course, begins with your intentions, freely and clearly stated.

What are your intentions? I’ll leave you to ponder that, and possibly jot down.

On my calendar, here’s what’s next:

Monday, January 14, 2008
10 p.m. — 12 Midnight PST
The Mike Hagan show
http://www.mikehagan.com/main.htm
Call in at 543-443-8255

This is a live call-in show that will be archived.
Mike’s show is heard by thousands all across the country. He has incredible guests on his show, talking on topics ranging from planetary change, to the Gaian mind, global alignment, and so much more. He and I are both excited to be bringing the topic of embodied enlightenment to his listeners. Please join us for this very special show.

In other news, my podcast, the Expanded Lovemaking Show, registered almost 70,000 downloads per month for December. We are taking off! and growing rapidly. So, if you love this show… well, it appears that you’re in a lot of good company!

Till next time, wishing you ever-expanding bliss!
Yours,
Patti
www.ExpandedLovemaking.com

Dear Expanded Lovemakers,

Have you heard the one where the Zen Monk goes to New York City and orders a hot dog from a vendor? He says, “Make me one with everything”. The vendor makes him a hot dog and takes his money. The monk expects his money back and when he doesn’t get it says, “Where’s my change?” “Ah”, says the vendor “Change comes from within.”

This joke reveals how we much expect the right thing to happen at the right place and time. The same event becomes funny when it’s the right thing at the wrong time.

Aren’t we all just chock-full of thousands of judgments about what’s right and wrong? What if we could just dump those judgments and enjoy every moment – especially during sex?

How cool would that be, since, when it comes to sex and pleasure, right and wrong events usually do not lead to harmless laughter, but often to more serious developments, like shutting down, embarrassment, trauma, hurt, and fear. Plus, we quit having fun with sex.

Have you got lots of judgments right this very nano-second about sexuality – yours, mine, and everyone else’s? Are you wondering, “Wow. I’d love to drop my judgments about sex. But how?”

AH!!! Here’s the true secret of enlightenment: It’s as close as a subtle shift away. (In other words, enlightened sex is not to be found in with some guru in the Himalayas…. It’s in a Hot Dog Vendor!) Okay… just kidding on this one.

Seriously, though. You don’t need to go to the Himalayas…. It’s all here, in your own, simple, amazing attitude about fun. Just keep asking yourself, would you rather be right, or have fun?

So the next time your lover slips on a banana peel – (say it’s *your* greased clit or cock), and their hand flies, on a fumble, up your nose… well, did you know that the nose is full of erectile tissue? If your nose knows this isn’t the place to be, solicit their slithering digits to slide slippery-slope down to your lips! Aha…. more erectile tissue! Now maybe lips are more to your liking (and licking)? Hmm, perhaps, now’s the time to become one with everything… wink, wink….starting with that friendly finger fondling your galactic smile!

Happy New You! To all my Dear Readers,

In Expanded Laughter,

Dr. Patti
www.ExpandedLovemaking.com

Hi this is Dr. Patti Taylor, of ExpandedLovemaking.com. It’s that, oh-so-magical time, of the year! Are you creating yours that way? After all, reality is what we create it to be, isn’t it?

Our Upcoming Show on Dec. 17th, with Jamye Waxman, is all about Sex Toys, by the way, and her new book, Getting Off, will also be full of great gift ideas!

If you or your partner don’t have an Ipod or MP3 player with which to download all our podcasts, well, there’s the first item on your want list: All the Expanded Lovemaking shows on a new MP3 player!

And, as an act of service, some people have an MP3 player and just don’t know how to download shows, or listen in their car? Do you? Can you show them?

Here are some gift-giving ideas for you to ask for, or to consider giving, related to your “favorite” podcast!

From Me:
Expanded Lovemaking: $16.95 My book, of course, at Amazon.com and fine bookstores, (they’ll order if out of stock).

Expand Her Orgasm Tonight DVD: $24.94 the famous DVD Adult, explicit. Order from www.ExpandedLovemaking.com

A Phone Coaching Session or In-person session or series of sessions. Why not learn new ways to spice things up in the nicest way, with yourselves as the gift? www.ExpandedLovemaking.com, go to Coaching

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I’m a woman, so in my mind, it’s easy to love jewelry! And, I don’t discriminate. I love the jewelry I buy myself just as much as I like gifts.

Of course, it has to be the perfect piece for me, that’s why I love Ice.com

I can look at the prettiest things in my free time just by going to Ice.com.

The whole website is set up for hours of shopping fun!

You can bookmark your favorite designers, or types of gifts, like tennis bracelets, or pendants. You can even search for gorgeous jewelry in a certain price range.

Some of these designer pages are so pretty it’s like you’re taking a little vacation and looking at art! You could definitely visit these pages with a lover!

Let’s face it I can definitely spend savory moments in a jewelry fantasy on this fabulous website.

You know I love the best in life, and that means getting the real thing in my jewelry, too. But I love it even more when the best in life comes easy.

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You’ll also get free shipping, money-back guarantees, no finance charges and easy payments plans.

I think anyone and everyone can find — and afford — something that will make their day, or even rock their world – so check out Ice.com the next time you’re in the mood for “you know what”.

And remember, typing in “Special” for your special Discount gets 20% more sexy, sparkling jewelry for yourself and for those you love!

So here’s my next fantasy: Listeners of Expanded Lovemaking will be the best dressed and best looking of all, all over the world!

Here is something I picked out that I really like:
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Hi, this is Dr. Patti Taylor of www.ExpandedLovemaking.com, and I am so thrilled to have this interview with Mantak Chia. Mantak Chia is a fixture in our culture, but in a slightly “small” way relatively to his total message. He is the one who for years has been telling men, to withhold ejaculation, and circulate that energy (and that semen!) up through the body instead! You can (and should) circulate precious this orgasmic energy up through your body, mind, heart and spirit, rather than “spend it” by letting it leave your body.

Of course he says a lot more than that. In fact, he has an entire cosmology or how to live an orgasmic and loving life.

It’s so typically “Western”-consciousness that we equate him with this one concept on of withholding semen, when what he talks about is an entire way of living, eating, thinking, and breathing, (for both men and women) … and, of course, when he includes making love and generating orgasmic energy as a big part of his overall conversation.

Join us as he talks about this, and so much more, on this podcast.

Yes…it’s about so much more than whether you ejaculate (as a man) or not.

So… become global. Open your mind and hear what this brilliant master has to say.

Oh, and check out some of his DVD’s while you are at it… they are wonderful. I especially love the ones on Sexual Alchemy, though, I admit, I haven’t seen them all yet! We list them on our episode page for Mantak Chia’s show.

Once you’ve listened to him, then see what works for you in your body.

Overall, I am sure you will feel totally enriched for having heard this brilliant man.

Listen Here

How? Through what? Compassionate Nonviolent Communication?

Hi, I’m Dr. Patti Taylor of ExpandedLovemaking.com, and most people tell me this: I thought you just slammed the door or made rude remarks when you wanted to get your point across! Then you annoyed people and started new relationships. (Put this all in reverse to describe what people do to you.)

This may sound funny…. If it weren’t so true. Then of course it’s tragic.

And it’s more heart-breaking when you realize the consequences of poor communication around intimate communication: hurt feelings, that lead to feeling traumatized, shut down, unattractive, and more.

Wouldn’t you like to reverse this trend? Is it possible?

Wouldn’t you like to feel loved, met, understood, and as a result, more open, warm, and sexy?

Imagine the hot, loving, or deeply caring sex you used to have when you felt you were really, truly, connecting. You can feel that way again in a much shorter time possible than you ever imagined!

Find out how in our show on Compassionate Communication with Lori Grace Star and Scott Catamas.

Listen Here

Hi, I am Dr. Patti Taylor of www.Expandedlovemaking.com.

I grew up with mottos like, “What you see is what you get”. “Seeing is believing”. “If you can’t feel it, it isn’t real”.

This kind of thinking means that an orgasm we are having in our head alone isn’t really happening to us, even if it happens to be feeling really amazingly delicious!

This type of rationale goes on a fender-bender when thousands of people start reporting “inner-mind/body” orgasms (which I guess are the opposite of out-of-body experiences, you might say!).

Have you had one, or several? If so, would you be willing to share what yours was like? I shared my experience on this week’s podcast with Dr. Barry Komisaruk, and I’ll give the link below.

You can do so here, in our comments section. We’d love to hear about it.

Or, if you’re feeling really virtuous, perhaps you’d like to contribute to making the world a better place? Dr. Barry is doing research to help spine-injured patients find new ways to experience orgasm.

He is seeking volunteers who can “think off” and are willing to come to New York to participate in his research study. You can write to him for further information at this address: brk@psychology.rutgers.edu.

What a good cause, more pleasure for people with a serious injury.

Wishing everyone more pleasure. I know you’ll get lots of ideas about how to have more in this fabulous podcast!

Listen To Dr. Barry Komisaruk Here

Hi, this is Dr. Patti Taylor of www.ExpandedLovemaking.com.

As you may have noticed I am offering more these days. Why? We teach what we need to learn, I always say. So what is there to learn about making love, and using this information to go into expanded orgasmic states, you might ask of me, since I probably do it more than almost anyone I know?

Everything. It’s not about what is being taught. It’s about being in the experience. Each gathering is like a sacred puja, or ceremony, where we use our collective energies to raise one another, and ourselves, and our awareness, in order to expand our bliss and bliss consciousness to places we never dreamed possible. And that is always an infinite journey.

So here is what is planned:

AH: Awakening Hearts: Saturday October 20th. 7pm to 10pm. In San Franscisco.
Last month’s gathering was REALLY fun and connective!*
So, come join a group of juicy cultural creatives, as we awaken our capacity to feel more joy, aliveness, and bliss!

For more info click on link: www.healingwords.org/ah.htm

Another evening: Sun., October 28th, 7 -10 pm in Corte Madera: Expanded Tantric Lovemaking, with optional potluck beforehand at 6 pm:
Here I am share some of the information that I have been presenting in New York, and introduce you to what I will be teaching in my upcoming playshops. You’ll learn more about how to expand your sensual life with newly refined practices derived from the Kashmiri Shaivist Tantra traditions. For more info click here:

http://www.celebrationsoflove.com/e-expandedtantriclovemaking.html

What are people are saying about Ah! Awakening Hearts?

*Patti and Don created a delightful, heartfelt space that was very safe and felt like home.
*The connecting exercises sparked my intuition and put me in touch with the moment.
*The activities of the evening helped me to explore the delicate balance of honoring boundaries and taking risks. I found that asking permission allowed more intimacy.
*Thank you for creating such a safe space to me to explore Sacred
Intimacy with my self and others. t reminded me that the essence of Tantra is spiritual awakening.
*It was more than I expected. I left the event with a feeling of deep peace and fullness in my Heart.

Yours, as always, Patti

Hi, this is Dr. Patti Taylor of www.ExpandedLovemaking.com, and I want to get on my soapbox for a minute, okay?

I just love Living Dialogs! It’s a podcast on the Personal Life Media Network. I literally await each week’s show with true curiosity. What has Duncan Campbell created for us this week?

Every podcast has a way of changing my life. They are that good! Recently, Joseph Chilton Pearce has been on for three whole shows, talking about culture, violence, children, the language of the heart, how it connects to the brain, and the biology of transcendence.

What do I love? Okay, it’s academic in parts. But Pearce lays it all out:
We are universally divine, but with cultural overlays, are “programmed” to forget this, and to embrace violence… and of course, this will show up in our lovemaking as well as in our children and all other aspects of our society.

This information tracks perfectly with what I teach — and believe — about learning to become a better lover. Underneath it all, we are have the potential to become precious, fabulous lovers, just waiting for a chance to express ourselves and learn how to love even more.

Pearce’s explanations about what we can do about our cultural conditioning… not what you may think… are refreshing and inspiring. And mind-opening.

Wow, do I love this show. And this week was just another in a string of hits. Thanks, Duncan.

This show is in three parts…. lucky us! So I am just giving the link to his page on Personal Life Media.

And, oh yes, thank you to Personal Life Media, who makes ALL of this content get out to us Lovemakers, who happen to be parents, children ourselves, and, of course, divine beings underneath the programming. Thank you, PLM!

Listen to Living Dialogs Here